Sunday, January 24, 2010

The Seven Ages of Man

As a huge Shakespeare fan, I have been thinking lately about the "Seven Ages of Man" monologue in "As You Like It" and how his description of the life's arc is so accurate:

All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players;
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts,
His acts being seven ages. At first the infant,
Mewling and puking in the nurse's arms;
And then the whining school-boy, with his satchel
And shining morning face, creeping like snail
Unwillingly to school. And then the lover,
Sighing like furnace, with a woeful ballad
Made to his mistress' eyebrow. Then a soldier,
Full of strange oaths, and bearded like the pard,
Jealous in honour, sudden and quick in quarrel,
Seeking the bubble reputation
Even in the cannon's mouth. And then the justice,
In fair round belly with good capon lin'd,
With eyes severe and beard of formal cut,
Full of wise saws and modern instances;
And so he plays his part. The sixth age shifts
Into the lean and slipper'd pantaloon,
With spectacles on nose and pouch on side;
His youthful hose, well sav'd, a world too wide
For his shrunk shank; and his big manly voice,
Turning again toward childish treble, pipes
And whistles in his sound. Last scene of all,
That ends this strange eventful history,
Is second childishness and mere oblivion;
Sans teeth, sans eyes, sans taste, sans everything." — Jaques (Act II, Scene VII, lines 139-166)

As I visit my father every day in the assisted living facility in which he is currently residing, and I observe its residents, I am reminded of this passage. I observe how aging is so different person to person. For some their bodies go first, while their minds are still functioning. For others, the body keeps going forward, while their mind deteriorates. It is so individual, and so nuanced, and all so frightening to think that this could be me in 30 years or my husband. Who will care for us? What if our children don't or won't? What if we cannot afford the wonderful care my father is able to receive. So much to think about and consider while still living, working, raising teenagers, pay for colleges and graduate school, not saving for retirement, thinking we will never really retire not because we don't want to but because we cannot afford to.

So we can only hope that our "justice" period is long-lived, and that our second childishness period is mercifully short and painless.